Talk therapy works with the mind, and somatic therapy works with the body. Here’s what that actually means and when it matters. Most people’s experience of therapy involves sitting across from someone and talking. You describe what’s happening, explore where it came from, and develop insight into your patterns. For a lot of people, this…
Both work with trauma at the level of the nervous system rather than just the narrative. Here’s how they differ and how to choose. If you’ve been looking into therapy for trauma, anxiety, or nervous system dysregulation, you’ve probably come across both Somatic Experiencing and EMDR. Both have strong research support. Both work with trauma…
Desire doesn’t begin in the mind, it begins in the nervous system, and it needs safety to show up at all. There’s a version of the conversation about desire that stays almost entirely in the psychological and relational realm. Communication. Emotional connection. Novelty. Prioritising the relationship. All of these things are real and relevant. But…
The field has produced some genuinely excellent books. Here’s what’s actually worth reading and why. The nervous system literature has expanded considerably over the past two decades. There are now genuinely excellent books on polyvagal theory, somatic healing, trauma recovery, and the intersection of nervous system health with relationships. There’s also a fair amount of…
What happened to you as a child didn’t just affect your memories. It shaped the biology you’re living in now. When people talk about childhood trauma and adult relationships, the conversation usually stays at the psychological level. Patterns of thinking. Beliefs about yourself and others. The stories you tell about why relationships go the way…
Avoidant attachment isn’t about not needing people. It’s about a nervous system that learned needing people was risky. Of the insecure attachment styles, avoidant is the one most likely to be mistaken for health. Avoidantly attached people tend to present as independent, capable, and emotionally stable. They don’t appear to need much from others. They…
Not all meditation apps are doing the same thing. Here’s how to find one that actually works for your nervous system. Meditation apps have become one of the most crowded spaces in wellness. There are dozens of them, the marketing is largely identical, and the difference between a useful tool and an expensive white noise…
Attachment theory started as psychology. The neuroscience has caught up, and what it shows is worth knowing. Attachment theory has been around since the 1960s. For most of that time it was primarily a psychological framework, based on observational research with infants and caregivers. The neuroscience tools to look inside the living brain simply didn’t…
Your heart doesn’t beat like a metronome. The variation between beats is one of the most useful health metrics most people have never heard of. If you’ve spent any time in the wellness or biohacking space, you’ve probably come across HRV. It shows up on fitness trackers, in recovery apps, in conversations about stress and…
The argument might be over. Your nervous system hasn’t gotten the memo yet. The argument ends. Maybe you reached some kind of resolution, maybe you didn’t. Either way, the conversation is over. And yet something in you is still running. Your heart is still elevated. Your chest is tight. Your mind keeps replaying what was…