The argument might be over. Your nervous system hasn’t gotten the memo yet. The argument ends. Maybe you reached some kind of resolution, maybe you didn’t. Either way, the conversation is over. And yet something in you is still running. Your heart is still elevated. Your chest is tight. Your mind keeps replaying what was…
Self-regulation gets a lot of attention, but the nervous system didn’t evolve to do this alone. There’s a version of wellness culture that treats nervous system regulation as a solo project. Breathwork you do alone, meditation apps in your earbuds, cold plunges, journaling – all of these things have value. However, the framing misses something…
Knowing you’re anxiously attached doesn’t make the anxiety stop. Here’s why, and what does. If you have anxious attachment, you’ve probably spent a fair amount of time wondering why you can’t just relax in relationships. You know, intellectually, that your partner loves you. You know the last argument wasn’t actually a sign that everything is…
Why your nervous system has three gears, and why the one you’re in determines everything. Polyvagal Theory has become one of those terms that gets thrown around a lot in therapy offices and wellness content without anyone fully explaining what it actually means. Which is a shame, because it’s one of the more genuinely useful…